what kind of mom are you?

What kind of mom are you?  There are many choices now to define you into a parental category, so many more choices that the groupings of old like the yuppy and the baby boomer, and yet, I find, I don’t fit any of them…

I have determined that I am a new breed of mom, an until recently undiscovered, unnamed species.  I don’t really fit in to the typical categories of mom, though I share some of the qualities typical of them.  Neither the soccer mom nor the helicopter mom of truly define me, the mom that I am, so I have come up with a new mom, the kind of mom I am now.  But first, let’s look at the current definitions of moms the world over, see if you are one of these, or if you are with me,a new mom.

this boy will try anything! the innocent look:-)

Soccer mom, as defined by wikipedia:  The phrase soccer mom generally refers to a married middle-class woman who lives in the suburbs and has school age children.   She is sometimes portrayed in the media as busy or overburdened and driving a minivan or SUV.  She is also portrayed as putting the interests of her family, and most importantly her children, ahead of her own.

Helicopter mom as defined by wikipedia:  A helicopter parent is a parent who pays extremely close attention to a child’s or children’s experiences and problems, particularly at educational institutions. The term helicopter parent was originally coined by Foster Cline and Jim Fay.  Helicopter parents are so named because, like helicopters, they hover overhead.

I am neither of these, as I stated, I am a bit of both, but these do not encompass all that I am as a mom.  There is not enough grit and combat boots in these definitions to truly capture the mom I have become, so I have coined a new term in parenting, I am the “hawker mom” a lovely blend of the soccer mom and the helicopter mom.   Has a real cachet right?!

Super "EKG" Hawkman

Super “EKG” Hawkman  he is the inspiration for my new style of motherhood!!

You would say, if you saw me at the playground with my crew that I was simply an overprotective, control-freak mom, who needed to let her kid get messy and play!  And I would agree with you, I am a control-freak, and overprotective, and fighting a constant battle against the child I am trying to parent, a battle to keep him safe and whole.  Simply alive even would be nice some days, just simply alive!!  You would watch me covertly, as you let little Jenny swing, or climb up the ladder to the slide, and shake your head, wondering why I even bring my kids to the playground, if I won’t let him swing on the bars, or jump for the zip line rope.  (Some days I wonder why I bring them too, but mostly I know, it is because they love it there, he loves it there, even if I dread it, just a little, every single time.)  You would not shake your head and wonder if you saw the dislocations and hyperextensions that jumping for those bars and swinging from that zip line causes, you would likely be appalled, scoop up little Jenny and head out, cause hey, there is a mom at that park that just reset her kids fingers and then let him go back to sliding and swinging!!  CRAZY!!!

at least he wears a helmet to skate needs a helmet for sledding too!

Nope, that is a hawker mom, that’s me.  I can have a conversation with many people, and keep track of what screams are currently emanating from my Little Man’s lungs, are they cries of delight, happiness, anger, or heaven forbid soon-to-be pain and injury.  I hear it all, see it all, ignore what is not life threatening, and swoop in to firmly put a stop to what will soon cause injury.

Like a mother hawk I will circle, high up, not noticed by my littles, but I see them, and am ready to dive in, to swiflty defend my young, even if that means I have to defend them/him, from himself.  I am the mom that makes off limits all sorts of fun play equipment, for my own sanity, and for his protection.  I am fast, and to cross me is to face a whole lotta fury.  Hawks may be small, but they are deadly predators, with great accuracy, and complete fearlessness when it comes to their young, that’s me, that is what I have become, a hawker mom.  I love my child and will protect him at all costs, even from himself if necessary, that is the kind of mom I have become.

Being a mom of a child with special needs requires a different set of rules I have found, it requires a resolve of steel, with a gentleness that is both protective and fierce, somedays it has to fight for, and with, the one for whom the love is intended, just to get through the day.  A hawker mom does that, all while sleekly moving from place to place, watching, aware, always alert, always battle ready.  It is tiring, and draining to be that mom, but the rewards, and the view looking down, seeing progress and pure enjoyment, that makes all the circling and watching, the fighting and swooping, all worth it.

no obstacle is too big for him

no obstacle is too big for him

I am a hawker mom, ever circling, putting my child’s needs and desires ahead of my own, but ready to swoop in at a moments notice, what kind of mom are you?  Do you fit the mold of motherhood, or have your children defined, and redefined the type of parent you are, and have become.

79 comments for “what kind of mom are you?

  1. Tiffany H
    10 September, 2013 at 11:13 pm

    Your son is beautiful! What great pictures! I would say that I am a lot like you, a hawker mom. I have four kids and I do feel like a regular overburdened soccer mom most days, but I am also the control freak that keeps my kids on the sidewalk at all times. I can easily ignore cries that are not life threatening and swoop in to kiss away real tears of sadness.

    • 11 September, 2013 at 9:15 pm

      thanks, my kids love mugging for the camera, and I keep mine on the sidewalk too!! hysterical, since most places we walk there is little traffic:-) All non life threatening boo-boos get a bandaid, a brush off of the dirt and a pat on the head, but it is good to know the difference in the cries! Keeping this many kids safe is hard, but they are worth every moment of anxiety, that is for sure!

  2. Rachel
    10 September, 2013 at 11:43 pm

    My baby is only 22 months old but I still identify more with the soccer mom. I like to take him all these crazy places and just let him experience it in his own way. Sure I am right behind him ready to save, but I try not to distract him from just being and living and learning.

    • 11 September, 2013 at 9:11 pm

      ah, the days of babyhood, I do miss those:-) it is great that you take him places and let him experience new things, I loved doing that when mine were little, now every day life is an adventure! enjoy the journey with a baby, it goes so fast!!!

  3. Sylina
    11 September, 2013 at 12:21 am

    I am not a mom yet. TTC here. I hope to be that sort of mom some day. I also hope to learn from my kids on how to be the best mom I can. I think you know exactly what you are doing and are doing an amazing job redefining “mom” for yourself and your son!

    • 11 September, 2013 at 9:10 pm

      thank you for your kind words, each kid is so different, and needs very different things from you, and somehow you figure out how to be all, or at least most, of those things, amazing!!

  4. Marisa
    11 September, 2013 at 12:25 am

    I am a rather laid back mom. I let the kids sort things out themselves most of the time. I even allow cussing at times so long as it doesn’t involve name calling. I am sure a lot of people would step into my chaotic and messy home and think we have no control but the truth is I am raising my children in a way that works for each of us. They are good students, good athletes and generally make good decisions. The sooner they are able to deal with ridicule and criticism from one another the better they will be able to brush things off by their peers. I am definitely not the “blow things out of proportion mom” but my eyes and ears remain focused and seldom forget a moment where my children did something inappropriate. I may not jump in at the moment as I expect them to settle things themselves, but afterwards i will take one aside and explain why something was not appropriate etc. I think our end goals as moms is all the same, have happy children who can and do reach their full potential regardless of physical or mental limitations.

    • 11 September, 2013 at 9:09 pm

      I envy you the laid back mom thing, I am a pretty laid back person, just very high energy, but the mom thing, not so much:-) It is good to allow kids to work it out though, and that is awesome that they are doing well with your model at home, great job!

  5. Jessica Blankenship
    11 September, 2013 at 12:45 am

    That is a beautifully written post, thanks for sharing! I can totally relate. I was once the “hawker” mom and still have a bit of her inside me at most times. I try and relax and let them be kids and be free but it’s truly hard when you KNOW what could happen in the blink of an eye.

    I have a 6 year old son and a 4 year old daughter. My son is the one who caused me to be the Hawker mom though. He was born extremely premature. He was born when I was just 6 months pregnant, 24 weeks. He was 1 pound, 13 ounces at birth. We had a long LONG 3 1/2 month stay in the NICU (which was almost 2 hours away from home).

    He wasn’t allowed around many people, especially kids because he had such a low immune system. A normal kid sniffling or sneezing would turn into full blown pneumonia or an extreme cold that seemed to last forever.

    He finally grew out of it, as he turned about 5. When he went into Kindergarten, being around the other kids FINALLY didn’t make him sick.!

    But, I am right there with you! Lovely blog and handsome son you have there.!

    • 11 September, 2013 at 9:07 pm

      thank you so much for your kind words, and I am sure that you had good reason to be ultra concerned for your son, and that is amazing and wonderful that your son is healthy and happy, so no matter the type of mom, you did exactly right for him!! I have friends with very premie babies, and it is hard, and scary, and you have every right to be a uber-helicopter mom, I would have my boy in a bubble if I had been there to see him at birth, good for you that you allowed him to grow stronger!!

  6. Wendy
    11 September, 2013 at 12:48 am

    I’m so glad to hear there is another mother out there that dreads the play ground. Thankfully my boys are out of the toddler phase and realize the height of the structures & play accordingly! My guilty secret? I let my husband take them to the play ground, because it stressed me out so much! I am probably a bit more helicopter mom. I overheard my oldest son when he was two, telling his friend “dangerous” as he pointed to the openings in the play ground that were well above five feet high.

    • 11 September, 2013 at 9:04 pm

      Hey, letting your hubby take them is a great idea, and it allows them to play in the oddly rough ways of boys, which I cannot quite fathom still!! At least your son has learned some good personal safety lessons, being a bit of a helicopter mom is not a bad thing either:-)

  7. Brian
    11 September, 2013 at 10:54 am

    I cannot speak to this post as I am a man, however I can tell you about my wife. As if being the mother of our six children isn’t enough work, she has now joined with me to start a new blog. It takes a lot of work to be my help meet, but she handles it so gracefully! Thank you for your post, and thank you to all the mothers out there who are raising up the next generation with love!

    • 11 September, 2013 at 9:03 pm

      that is awesome that your wife is your help meet, I look forward to reading what you all are writing, we only have three, with the hopes of 1 possibly 2 joining our own crazy in the future:-)
      I am pretty sure that my hubby is not a “hawker dad” but more of a “hawk-Man” dad, as he is a super hero fan, but it is applicable across the gender lines I think!

  8. Sandra
    11 September, 2013 at 11:32 am

    Tough question…. i can be everything I guess, from being overprotective to I leave my cellphone at home to have quiet time with my husband (the hotel has a phone , right???)
    I jump in most things whole hearted and try to be enthusiastic in everything, even if it means scaring my husband because I lay yelling in weird noises on the floor wrestling my kids because I know they love it and they scream in joy….
    Think my category of a mom would be crazecontrol or something like that,lol

    Sandra ( http://piecesofmylife.info )

    • 11 September, 2013 at 9:01 pm

      that is awesome that you can be so in the moment and crazy with your kids, I struggle with that more I think, mostly because I tend to be “on guard duty” a lot.
      I like your new category, it could be interesting to read up on:-)

  9. Kecia
    11 September, 2013 at 11:44 am

    I like the term “hawker mom”. I think it describes my parenting style as well. I try not to be overbearing, but I always know what my child is doing so that I may prevent accidents and injuries before they occur.

    • 11 September, 2013 at 8:59 pm

      glad you like the term, feel free to reuse it, I have not copyrighted it yet;-)
      Prevention is the name of the game some days, but the diligence pays off in happy, and relatively healthy9boo-boo free) kids!lol

  10. Yolanda Rooney
    11 September, 2013 at 11:51 am

    Awesome pics of your kids!! You are a great mom! I don’t fit the mold of any stereotype of mom, which I used to worry about. Now I know that I am a mom that loves my kids. We have fun together, we laugh together. Sometimes they think I’m mean or too strict, but they always know they’ll be taken care of 🙂

    • 11 September, 2013 at 8:58 pm

      thanks, my kids love being photographed:-) I laugh because my mom was not any of the typical sorts of mom, and now here I am not fitting into a mold, and making my own instead, and trying not to worry too much while doing it!! It is good to have fun and just laugh with your kids, some days I have a harder time lightening up, but I try:-)

  11. Erin @ My Mommy World
    11 September, 2013 at 1:17 pm

    I’ve had a hard time backing off and letting my kids be kids. You don’t want to see them get hurt, but you want them to explore and learn at the same time. It’s definitely a balance!

    • 11 September, 2013 at 8:56 pm

      It is so hard, and having a child, my son, who has special needs and is handicapped, but who still wants to be a wild and crazy boy, yikes!! recipe for crazy momma:-) I struggle with backing off all the time, some days are better than others, but I try every day!

  12. Scarlett
    11 September, 2013 at 3:12 pm

    I am also a hawker mom. I can’t be a soccer mom because I don’t have school-age children, and I don’t drive a minivan or SUV, but I do put LOs needs above my own (and Hubby’s too!). People say I am a helicopter mom, I watch over my son, but given the definition above, I try not to criticize those teaching or taking care of my son, unless it’s absolutely necessary. So I guess that makes me a hawker mom.

    I’m a nurturing person, so parenthood hasn’t really changed me, but I will say being a parent is so much harder (and rewarding) than I ever dreamed!

    • 11 September, 2013 at 8:54 pm

      I find it is all about balance, being balanced in who I am to my kids, and who I am for my husband and myself, and balancing what I would do, or want done, with the needs and wishes of others, often my kids are the ones with different wishes:-) You can totally be a soccer mom without the minivan though, that is for sure!!lol

  13. Patricia
    11 September, 2013 at 5:25 pm

    right now, I am not a mom. I would love to be able to mother a little one. I was told at the age of 29 that I could not have one, and I am 49 now. The only time my “Mothering” instincts kick in is when I am babysitting my niece and nephews. then like you, I become that Hawk Aunt (mother). I want to know what scream is coming out of their mouths, every little cry, aunty call, and when they venture too far, I gather them to come closer where I can see them. Humm, I think I better re-read that, because I sound more like being a hoverer than a hawk. When I had my middle nephew over for the first time when he was a baby, I slept with one eye open..

    • 11 September, 2013 at 8:52 pm

      the sleeping with one eye open is funny, and very true!! Our eldest is our biological child, our two youngest are adopted, so while you may never give birth, motherhood through adoption is always a beautiful option!

  14. Divachyk
    11 September, 2013 at 7:49 pm

    I’m not a mommy so I can’t answer that part but I’m sure I’d be a hawker mom. Cute photos!!!
    Divachyk @ Relaxed Thairapy

    • 11 September, 2013 at 8:50 pm

      it is amazing what you become when you have kids:-)

    • 11 September, 2013 at 9:16 pm

      thanks, my son is a pretty handsome dude!! I never thought I would be a hawker mom, kinda struck me by surprise when I figured it out, lol!!

  15. Michelle @ Delicate Construction!
    11 September, 2013 at 10:02 pm

    I totally relate to this post! I am a stay at home mom and I love the whole job! The way i see it, I just want to do the best thing I can, which sometimes results in me being an over achiever.

    • 12 September, 2013 at 4:13 pm

      overacheiver, never!!HA!! totally relate to that one:-)
      Being a stay at home mom is the hardest, best job I have ever done, and while the hours get longer it seems, the joy of being home with my kids more than compensates, cheers to stay at home moms!!

  16. Mylene
    12 September, 2013 at 1:05 pm

    Thanks for sharing the definition of those two kinds of mom:) I often read those terms when I’m blog hopping but I guess I didn’t bother that much to look for their definitions because as long as there’s the word Mom, I somehow know and can relate already:)

    Hawker moms, I believe I am that kind of mom too! (again, thanks for giving that new term to us moms).

    • 12 September, 2013 at 4:12 pm

      glad you like the term, it seems to fit quite a few I have spoken too:-) the terms make me laugh some times, as mom is simply the only title we should be worried about, but some take it to the extreme I guess, oh well, I like my term and am sticking to it!!lol

  17. Ruth Hill
    12 September, 2013 at 3:00 pm

    You are to be commended for your parenting style. Especially concerning that you have a special needs child. I am not any of the mothering types explained. I am one of the mother who stands in the shadows and lets my daughter be who she is. Sometimes I forget and try to insert my own ideas into her. That’s when things become difficult. I let her go through things and try to only step in when she wants me to or her safety is in danger. I talk to her about anything she wants to–no topic is taboo. She knows the rules, and I make sure she abides by the rules, but other than that, I try to let her be who she is. I don’t know what kind of mom that is.

    • 12 September, 2013 at 4:10 pm

      thank you Ruth for your kind words, and it sounds like you are a pretty good mom, and that is a great type to be!! I often run into trouble when I try to interject my own ideas or goals on my kids play, trying to work on staying out more!!:-)

  18. Peggy
    12 September, 2013 at 9:51 pm

    You certainly have a cuties there. I love his smile. I take my grandchildren to the playground but I worry about them. As a grandmother I guess I am a helicopter grandmother. I was not so worried about my boys way back then but I do about the little ones now. There is so much that could go wrong now that I just did not worry about back then.

    • 13 September, 2013 at 3:04 pm

      I am pretty sure that my mom worries more about them than she did about my sister and I when we were little:-) It makes me laugh sometimes, the things she said, I am like “really mom, that is what you are going to freak about, when I did crazier stuff than that at their age?!” she laughs, I guess being a grandparent is different, I am immune to the crazy now, she only gets it in smaller doses:-)

  19. Britney @ The Princess & Her Cowboys
    13 September, 2013 at 10:54 am

    This is so interesting and I love that you came up with your own word for the type of mother you are. I think it’s so important to figure out what kind of mother we need to be for our children instead of trying to fit into the mold of some of the ones that are already around. Thanks for sharing this!

    • 13 September, 2013 at 3:02 pm

      it is funny, because I am totally different for my other kids, no need to be the “hawker mom” with them, it is important to be the mom they need, to a certain degree! thanks for your kind comments.

  20. Ashley Pomykala
    13 September, 2013 at 5:10 pm

    I love the post! I am not a parent, but I believe that I would be a mom just like you are. I love the term hawker mom and believe that it is the perfect balance.

    • 13 September, 2013 at 9:35 pm

      awww, thanks, but please do not be a mom like me, I am a bit of a mess most days, and blame my kids for my craziness:-) Balance is key, and I try to have it, not always successful, but I try:-) thanks for stopping by!!

  21. Ryan
    13 September, 2013 at 6:49 pm

    I am a dad, so I don’t fit any mom-molds. I’m the dad who lets their kids swing and jump and climb at the playground – that’s where kids go to find out what they’re little bodies are capable of. Loved your post!

    • 13 September, 2013 at 9:34 pm

      thank you for your kind words, and my hubby is the same way, very hands off, unless near death is involved, strangely for us, it seems to come up on a regular basis:-) thanks for stopping by!

  22. Eschelle
    13 September, 2013 at 7:09 pm

    I am my own breed too i have to agree, main reason i started my blog Mumfection (mums for of perfection…) kinda pointing out that we all do things different Nd that should be embraced not judged.

    You have gorgeous children! Lovely to meet you!

    (Took me three times to get this comment in, you may want to make your blog more comment friendly)

    • 13 September, 2013 at 9:32 pm

      thanks I will check that out, not usually an issue, hmm?
      Thank you for your kindness, I am biased, but they are pretty cute kids;-)!! I like the name mumfection, but sadly, am completely unable to aspire to perfection, though I enjoy seeing those that do!!!

  23. Jamie (Mama.Mommy.Mom.)
    13 September, 2013 at 8:55 pm

    Hawker mom! I love it. There are so many different types of moms out there, and this is the first name that I feel like kind of fits me. I’m definitely not a helicopter parent, though I’ll be there in a heartbeat if my kids need me… and I’m not really a soccer mom either, but I do cart them around and have that whole overwhelmed housewife thing going on from time to time. I think I’m just a big mishmash 🙂

    • 13 September, 2013 at 9:31 pm

      not sure that mishmash mom has the ring you are looking for, but hawker mom is free for use, enjoy!!:-) Glad it seems to fit you, and overwhelmed housewife/mom thing falls under any heading too, lol!!

  24. Ana @MommysBundle
    13 September, 2013 at 11:08 pm

    I def consider myself a combo of the two – so hawker mom it is!

    Although at times I do see I can be a helicopter mom — but it’s hard not too when your little one is yanking hair and rough housing! It’s just a stage so hoping things will change for the better soon!!

    • 15 September, 2013 at 6:14 pm

      ah, yes, that stage, sadly that stage is replaced by other stages:-) It is good to be a combo though, too hard-line to be just one in my opinion!

  25. Pam Russo
    14 September, 2013 at 10:50 am

    My four children are grown now but I would say I was a very hands on mom. I encouraged my kids to participate in whatever they were interested in from sports and band to dance competitions and was involved with all of it. I was always class mother when they were young, girl scout leader, team mom etc, etc. etc. Today I am a very proud mom, with self-sufficient, contributing adult children. I admire your dedication and from your wonderful pictures it is obvious you are a loving mom with a very happy child!

    • 15 September, 2013 at 6:13 pm

      thank you for your kind words, and i hope when my kids are grown they will look back and say that I was a fun and involved mom, I know that I do with my mom, and I appreciate that more now that I have my own kids!

  26. Rant Relief
    14 September, 2013 at 7:50 pm

    I am not a mom, but I am a huge believer that people should raise their children in the way that they think is best. Helicopter mom or tiger mom, both are just trying to do their best!

    • 15 September, 2013 at 6:12 pm

      figuring out which is the best is the true challenge, it does not always seem to be the one you think:-)

  27. Adriana G
    15 September, 2013 at 10:07 am

    Central Bargains and Giveaways says: I am an active parent. Before blogging, it was more of a breeze to be a parent. Blogging takes up a lot of time. From my kids point of view, parenthood without cooking up Italian Storms Dishes, without organizing more family get-togethers (just because with no reason) and going out to watch movies or just McDonals does not reflect Italian heritage. Wow!

    • 15 September, 2013 at 6:11 pm

      my goodness, that does sound like an active parent!!

  28. Sandra
    15 September, 2013 at 10:34 pm

    I guess I have an older perspective on being a mom because my children are mostly grown with my baby in his junior year of college. I would say that as they grew up I was a “learning mom”. As the youngest child growing up, I was never around children younger than me. When I began raising mine, it seemed like every day was a new learning experience. I was protective of them like a helicopter mom but didn’t stay so close that they didn’t have new experiences. I loved taking care of them and being a “soccer” mom as they participated in sports and grew up. They are such great kids now! It is so worth it!

    • 18 September, 2013 at 9:09 am

      I like to be a learning mom too, that is a good title, but it is hard some days, to be constantly trying to keep up with them:-)

  29. Beingomma
    16 September, 2013 at 5:42 am

    I loved reading this – you described yourself beautifully. I am not sure what type of Omma I am… I need to give this some thought – but I hope above all I am the Omma my boys need.

    Bless you and your family

    • 18 September, 2013 at 9:07 am

      thank you for your kind words, God has blessed us greatly, and I am sure that you are exactly what your boys need.

  30. Norma Kay Lawson Neal
    16 September, 2013 at 2:55 pm

    I reared six children. I have at one point in my life been all the moms stated here. But I do know that I am the mom who loves her children more than life. All of the moms described here sound like loving moms and that is what I think is the most important.

    • 18 September, 2013 at 9:02 am

      six kids, wow, good for you!! It is best to be the mom that each child needs you to be, and to be the best mom for you and your sanity, and to just love your kids endlessly:-)

  31. Martini
    16 September, 2013 at 3:06 pm

    Wow…I can identify with all three moms… I’m a little bit of each.

    • 18 September, 2013 at 9:00 am

      I am not sure I can come up with a name that defines all three, any suggestions;-)

  32. Sarah @ HelpMeet Your Goals
    16 September, 2013 at 8:08 pm

    I’d say I’m a pretty laid back mom. My biggest struggle is realizing what is realistic as far as what we can get out and about to do. With a toddler and an infant, I’m realizing yet again that I need to lower my expectations of what we can do in a given day.

    • 18 September, 2013 at 9:00 am

      those are hard ages to get out and do with, but it is fun to explore the world with them and see them learn every day. It is good to be laid back in this stage, I was pretty uptight in this age, but relaxed once they did not try to eat every little thing:-)

  33. Lynnette Nicholas
    17 September, 2013 at 4:23 am

    I really enjoyed your post. I am a Bohemian, Eagle Eye type of mom. I just coined this term, but it defines where I am at this point in my mothering. I am bohemian, and I believe in trusting the life process, entrusting my daughter to God, and learning from her intuition as well. I feel that it is not just my job to teach her, but to be a subtle guide and active participant in her journey. I am a trusting mother, and as a result of that trust, by parenting has been relatively stress-free.

    • 18 September, 2013 at 8:59 am

      ohh, I like that, I am not good at trusting my kids intuition, need to work on that more, but that is a great description!!!

  34. Chinky
    17 September, 2013 at 5:04 am

    Wonderful post! I think we all fit into being a soccer and helicopter mom definition! You made it more simpler though with introducing the hawker mom! I enjoyed looking at the pictures! it speaks of admiration and love for your little one! 🙂

    • 18 September, 2013 at 8:55 am

      thanks, I do admire and love my kids, I truly have huge respect for my son who struggles so much with simple things, and never gives up!!

  35. Lindsey
    17 September, 2013 at 2:35 pm

    I actually haven’t really thought about what kind of mom I am. I think motherhood and mamas are way to complex to define. And I’m okay with that. 🙂 I’m just doing the best I can and praying that God takes care of the rest!

    • 18 September, 2013 at 8:54 am

      Thank God, He can take care of the rest!! Some days I think it is my job to do it all, but He always reminds me it is not mine, but His to do, they are His children, and I am thankful for the blessing of caring for them!!

  36. Emilee
    17 September, 2013 at 2:57 pm

    I can definitely understand. I would say I am definitely a lot like you as well! We have 3 special needs children that don’t quite understand social boundaries. So I do feel like I am constantly intervening where other parents wouldn’t. But I HAVE to. I have to protect my children. I still want to take them places they enjoy, though, of course! Hawker mom is a good word for it! I like that!

    • 18 September, 2013 at 8:53 am

      it is hard to have special kids who need that intervention for their own safety, good for you that you go places anyway, some days I am just too tired to even try!! good for you!

  37. Ms. Nix
    17 September, 2013 at 7:13 pm

    I am a mother that loves her sons and protects them a little more than most – the world has changed tremendously and it continues to rob our children of their childhood. I am a mother who is extremely involved in my kids lives – no television or video games will not raise my children that’s me and my husband’s job! I am the mother of two boys who are turning into great men, positive thinkers, achievers and men of God. So what kind of mother am I? A mother who truly loves her boys…without question!

    • 18 September, 2013 at 8:52 am

      the best kind of mom there is, one who is dedicated to raising her children well!! The world is a scary place sometimes, so it is harder to raise them safely, but they are our hope for the future!!

  38. Whitney
    18 September, 2013 at 12:09 am

    Awww, I really loved this post. I’m not a mom yet, but I’m definitely a “hawker” sister! I am the oldest of 8 and really feel like the dad (my dad left us about 13 years ago). My brothers look up to me as such and really come to me for any and everything. I am on top of everything they do and watch them like a hawk, LOL. You have a really beautiful family, keep up the great work!


    • 18 September, 2013 at 8:50 am

      thank you for your kind words, they are pretty cute:-) That is great that you are such a dedicated sister, it will have prepared you to be an awesome mom one day, you siblings and future children will be lucky!!

  39. Kelly
    18 September, 2013 at 10:19 pm

    My first long comment didn’t post, thanks to the spam filter and my web addy in the website field. Aggh! So, let me just say, I’m not a real soccer mom, not a helicopter mom. Maybe a laizzez-faire mom would be more accurate.

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